“You’re blackmailing my health to win an argument”: Husband refuses to cook anymore after wife makes kitchen impossible to cook in, she feels forced to eat fast food everyday and blames him

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    AITAH for refusing to cook in our kitchen because my wife decorated it

    100 "You don't just get to decide what's what"
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    My wife and I (37M, 35F) bought a house together two yeas ago. She had a laundry list of things she absolutely had to have but I only cared about one thing: I wanted a good kitchen with plenty of room to work. I been cooking my whole life and I cook all the meals.
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    We found a beautiful house that we both love and everything was fine. She added her flair to most of the rooms. I let her choose the paint and furniture and wall art. We both paid our share on everything and the house is gorgeous. I love it. She has great taste.
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    However, a few months ago she started talking about wanting to do the kitchen. I was open to it. It was now the only room in the house that hadn't gotten personalized and it made it stick. out. The problem was that she wanted to put random nick-nacks all over the place. Every day she
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    was coming from the store with some new item. Baskets with fake fruit. Big ceramic pots for flour (we don't bake). Book sized wooden blocks with "sweet" sayings on them. A wine rack and espresso machine (we don't drink either!!!).
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    Vinegrette decanters with glittery liquid in it. Decorative plates that sit on the cabinet shelves (in front of the real dishes)
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    It all came to a head when I found that she had put the toaster oven in the under cabinet and moved my big ol chopping block to above the fridge so she can put a full serving tray with 4 cups, saucers and a kettle set up in the middle of the counter (like we're hosting afternoon tea - we never do that).
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    I told her I was not on board. The kitchen is the perfect size to get cooking done. I use the toaster oven 3 times a day and my butcher's block lives in that spot. It lives there cause I use it all the time. I asked her where there was even space left for me to put down my 20x28 butchers block?
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    She started showing what could be moved over to accommodate the block and I said that I wasn't moving stuff around every single time I want to cut a melon.
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    She kept saying it wasn't a big deal and I'd get used to it but I stood firm on wanting all this random stuff out of where I essentially work. She started crying and saying stuff like "You don;t get to just decide what's what." We tried talking about it again a few times and it always
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    again a few times and it always ends with her crying. I don't yell or anything. She just refuses to accept that I don't want a cute kitchen more than I want a useful one.
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    I haven't cooked a full meal in our kitchen in 2 months. I make a few days worth at a time (of rice or potatoes and a tray full of proteins. Bags of salad. Frozen soup.). I pack it up in the fridge to eat as needed. She's invited to eat any of it but she "doesn't like leftovers"
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    She recently realizes she's gaining weight, wasting tons of time in drive thru lines and paying lots of money for food she doesn't even enjoy. Last night, we tried once again to talk about the kitchen and it ended with me saying if it's so important than just let me have the kitchen how it needs to be to
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    cook right. She started crying again and accused me of blackmailing her health to win an argument.
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    | gave up after that and we both had to leave for work before we could talk it over. I feel de d set that as the person actually using the kitchen, cooking tools should not have to compete for space with useless sh and I refuse to cook in such a cumbersome way. What do yall think?
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    EDIT: Saw a few people asking about my work situation. I work from home. Many days I have to get up before dawn to pickup paperwork at a close by job site, but my main job is done at home.
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    Ambroisie_Cy 11h ago • The person who uses the kitchen, in this scenario you, should have a say in how and where things are placed in the environment of work.
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    Puting a toaster oven, that is used for almost every meal, at a place where you need to move it every time you want to cook is stupid, inefficient and a pain.
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    A kitchen is made to cook, not to show case a bunch of junk. I get having a few decorations, put it needs to be functional first. NTA
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    • kindaright-ish 11h ago NTA. She's choosing aesthetics over functionality.
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    She started crying and saying stuff like "You don;t get to just decide what's what The same goes for her, too.
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    Federal-Ferret-970 • 11h ago Your wife is being manipulative not you. You have valid reasons for wanting and not wanting certain things out or tucked away. NTA.

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