Generous sister gives unemployed 30-year-old brother a 30 day notice to leave her house with his kids after finding out their parents have been giving him $2000 monthly stipend: “[She] gave him nearly a year of free housing”

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    AITA for giving my unemployed brother 30 days to move out of my inherited house with his kids?

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    i (29) came into an inheritance from my grandma last year. My brother (32) has been having financial trouble since his divorce, so I allowed him and his children (7, 5) to stay temporarily until he could "get back on his feet." That was 10 months ago.
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    He doesn't even pay rent or utilities, he just purchases groceries occasionally. I've been patient but I'm just at my breaking point now. He's not
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    looking for a job and spends all his time playing video games when I'm working. His kids are nice but have ruined pieces of my grandma's antique furniture that were important for sentimental reasons.
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    Last week we learned he's been receiving $2K a month from our parents under the guise of saving for his own home, which he's been using for other expenses (discovered he went out and bought a $1200 gaming setup).
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    I explained to him that he has 30 days' notice that he needs to leave. He went crazy telling me that I'm heartless and leaving his kids homeless. Our parents called me saying I owed him an extra chance
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    because "family takes care of family." They even volunteered to pay for him to stay for a while, but I wasn't interested. I do not need money - I need my home back.
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    My mom now claims I'm heartless for not being willing to give him more time given that there are kids involved. I feel like I've been exploited for nearly a year, though. AITA for holding firm at 30 days?
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    skalliwag NTA. Your brother is a lazy leach. The sooner he's out, the sooner you can get back to looking after your own mental health.
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    He's not showing any gratitude for what you've already done for him. He's using you and believes the world owes him a free ride.
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    Asleep-Farm2790 OP Thank you. It helps to hear that I'm not crazy for feeling taken advantage of after all this time.
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    Pageybear13 Your mom can take him in since she feels so strongly
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    Salad Unlucky10 NTA. You gave him time, support and space. He chose to coast. You're not heartless-just done being taken advantage of.
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    Every Needleworker27 Absolutely agree - NTA at all. You've already done more than most would, and he clearly has no intention of stepping up or being respectful about the situation. Setting a firm boundary isn't cruel, it's necessary.
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    1890rafaella Hi and you're just enabling him by letting him stay there. He's never going to change unless you force him to. Let your parents house him and the kids if they're so critical of you
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    Adelucas It's always the same story. They have money coming in and months to find a new place, then when you have had enough and give them notice you are the
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    bad guy. FYI, you aren't. This would have gone on forever with him enjoying mooching off you and his untrained crotch goblins destroying your home (more than they already have).
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    Tell your mom if she feels that strongly then she can take them in. You've done your duty. Time for someone else to step up and be the s er.
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    BunnyBlushie Exactly this. OP already gave him nearly a year of free housing more than most would. The second someone sets boundaries, suddenly they're the villain? Nah. If mom thinks it's so cruel, she can open her doors
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    Useful_Context_2602 NTA. Why can't your parents take him in? Either way he's pocketed $20k and done nothing to improve his living situation
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    Gloomy-Increase-8726 NTA. You've definitely been exploited. Give him a formal written notice to vacate. it sounds like your parents are interested in housing him at their place since 'family takes care of family'. Alternatively, they can pay for his lazy a to live somewhere else. This should not be your problem.
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    Flashy Habit3030 100% NTA but your brother sure is. Tell your mom to use pay towards a deposit and apartment for her son. Tell your brother to use $1200 towards a deposit on an apartment.
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    Tell brother he is failing his children, not you. Your brother is using you and you BOTH know it. And, if family helps family then tell your mom to take her grown a son in. Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries.

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